What Do You Want?
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This may sound like an easy question to answer, but I think it's one of the harder ones if we think beyond the immediate moment.
🤔 What do I want from my life?
🤔 What do I want from my job/career?
🤔 What do I want from my relationships with family and friends?
If you've been reading my messages since earlier this year, you know that one of my anchor words for the year is "want." My focus for this was to differentiate what I want to do vs. what I should do, but also the focus on "if I want these things to happen, what will need to happen for them to come true."
I write at least one statement every day in my journal to remind myself of this anchor, but I thought about it even more deeply this week when listening to a podcast episode with Jen Hatmaker and Amanda Doyle. I've shared the podcast link below in case you're interested in listening. I know it's a bit different than most of the podcast episodes I share, but I think the message will resonate with many of you.
It's so easy to go through life without taking the moments to pause and consider - what do I really want. I think this tends to be a more challenging question for many women who feel like their role is to care for other's needs before their own so they don't make the time to figure this out. It may feel selfish.
If we're not clear on what we want or willing to share that with the people around us, I think resentments start building that come out across all the domains of your lives and relationships.
We may hope that what's challenging us in our personal life won't show up in our work life or vice versa, but, it's time to be honest. It will show up in some way, even if you're amazing at compartmentalizing.
My challenge for you this week is to answer these questions:
🤔 What do I want from my life?
🤔 What do I want from my job/career?
🤔 What do I want from my relationships with family and friends?
I think the answer to these questions help define what success mean to us at any point in time.
And once you answer those, you get to the even more challenging set which allows you to figure out how to make those things happen. If you're interested in a template for this, send me a message.
If we want to love our life, we need to know what we want from it.
For us to be the leaders we want to be, we need to know what we want from this role.
What do you want?
Wishing you moments of deep reflection!